I Passed The Test!
Back in February I posted about the topic of maintaining composure in the face of insult and ridicule by a difficult co-worker. Over the past few months I have worked hard not to let myself be brought down to my co-worker's level. I took the practical advice offered in the book "The Trail to Tranquility" and looked at this difficult situation as a personal test from Hashem.
Instead of ignoring my co-worker and giving her the "silent treatment", I made sure to great her each morning and speak to her in the friendliest possible manner. During times that she was in a foul mood, I remained silent and simply walked away. I never once responded to her verbal assaults
In my original post I wrote that my co-worker would disappear into thin air when I was successful and had passed this personal test. I am happy to report that I have passed! While she hasn't disappeared into thin air, she has just been transferred to another floor in my building....to a cubicle far, far away.
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How did you get the book? I went on Rabbi Brody's website, and saw that the book won't be released until June 10. Are there advance copies? Thank you for your delightful site.
Shana:
Thank you for your comment. You are correct, the book is scheduled to be available on June 10th. Rabbi Brody sent me an advanced copy (via e-mail attachments) of the book in order to get my feedback prior to its release.
Be sure to buy a copy when it is released. It is truly a WONDERFUL book!!
Try
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
great book
Congrats on your success! And you know that I second your love of TTTT. It's brilliant. I like how he gives so many ways to interpret negative behaviors that come a person's way; if one doesn't work for you, move to the next one on the list. I know we aren't supposed to focus on being rewarded by God for good behavior, but when people are buttheads to me and I need to remain positive, I think about the soul cleansing benefit I get from the crap they are giving me. And if I can keep my cool, the fact that the sin remains on their tab, as it were. When I respond with anger, we split the check. I might fume about it later, but I get into WAY fewer arguments since reading the book. I have also found that relationships have kind of ended up in two columns: 1) Much better, spend more time together, much closer and 2) Don't even go near them, minimze contact as much as possible.
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