Tuesday, June 13, 2006


(Photograph courtesy of Jerusalem Collection.com)

Chabakuk Elisha commenting on Tomer Devorah & Babka.com:

I know that this is a theme often touched on in Chassidus, Mussar and other sources, but it is a tricky thing. It can make someone easy prey, and reward bullies if not applied properly; that's why I was pleased to notice that you say the person has been helpful.

There are some who misinterpret remarks of this type, thinking that they are meant to display kindness to those who harm them. We must remember:

1. One who displays favor, forgiveness or kindness to evil people, ends up harming innocent people.

2. Turning the other cheek is not a Torah concept.

Forgiveness is without question a Torah ideal, and should be used whenever appropriate, but as my father always says, "You’re not obligated to forgive people who aren't even sorry for what they did." (Obviously, it's also important not to get yourself down, and we don't believe in revenge.)


At June 14, 2006 at 1:10:00 AM EDT, Blogger Neil Harris said...

From a Midah K'nedig Midah standpoint, Forgiveness is something we should exercise regularly.

At June 14, 2006 at 10:50:00 AM EDT, Blogger socialworker/frustrated mom said...

It is very hard to do with some people. I found it is helpful for me even not thinking about the good of other people. The anger is very heavy inside a person until they forgive and it's like they are once again eased of this heaviness.

At June 18, 2006 at 1:23:00 PM EDT, Anonymous Anonymous said...

just point of fact, the Photograph used, courtesy of Jerusalem Collection.com, is of my neighbor, Yaakov Kaszemacher. He is a well know artist/photographer here in Tsfat! His gallery is beautiful and a MUST for all visitors! His web site is:


also see:


At June 18, 2006 at 1:37:00 PM EDT, Blogger A Simple Jew said...

Thanks for the wondeful link!


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