Friday, July 14, 2006

"Wimping Out"

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Chabakuk Elisha commenting on I Am Not - Regret:

I also suspect that my liking for Irgun fighters is similarly inspired – I also suspect that this is not at all uncommon. When we talk about Channuka or Purim, (or as a Chossid, the same can applied to the great moments in Chassidic history) – we are inspired by the struggles to overcome opposition and stand up and fight for your beliefs in the face of great hatred – no doubt people, like myself, who felt that they lacked that kind of intestinal fortitude are impressed by, and aspire to, that inner strength.

As a child I was an appeaser; I avoided conflict at all cost, and allowed myself to be bullied on many occasions. I became very skilled at diffusing situations - telling myself that I was being a better person, that I was above fighting, but knowing in my heart that I was just "wimping out."

I grew in a fairly liberal area, so pacifism was somewhat of an ideal - but I knew that I was selling myself out.

I wish I would have stood up for myself then; at this point in my life, I try hard to make sure my backbone is in place - and not be fall prey to my tendency to avoid conflict. I also want my children to stand up for themselves, and not be taken advantage of (when I would probably not have at their age). I try to speak to them about this often.

I remember reading that a certain Rebbe’s father would often read him stories from Chazal & Tanach that displayed inner courage and strength when he was a small child, in order to infused him with these qualities.


At July 14, 2006 at 2:21:00 PM EDT, Anonymous Anonymous said...

On this photo - Rav Slonim ztz"l with his gransdon H"yd. Both killed by arabs murderers in Hevron in 1929.

At July 16, 2006 at 3:18:00 PM EDT, Anonymous Anonymous said...

First they came for the communists, and I did not speak out - because I was not a communist;
Then they came for the socialists, and I did not speak out - because I was not a socialist;
Then they came for the trade unionists, and I did not speak out - because I was not a trade unionist;
Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out - because I was not a Jew;
Then they came for me - and there was no one left to speak out for me.


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