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Of all the proofs of the Divine origin of the Torah, I can think of no better than "proof" than the fact that it includes the laws of taharas mishpacha. If the Torah was written by man, I can't imagine that any sane man would include such laws that restrict the marital relationship.
Countless books have been written for woman on the topic of taharas mishpacha, however I have never seen even one book written for men to address their emotional needs at the time when all physical contact is forbidden. Man's difficulty lies in the fact that he is created as an extremely physical creature and is not given a corresponding physical outlet during the time of separation. This separation, in turn, can often lead to depression and irritability.
Rebbe Nachman of Breslov was keenly aware of man's innate difficulty and taught,
"Sexual temptation is man's main test in this world."
Indeed, of all the biographies I have read on tzaddikim, I have never been able to find any with descriptions on this subject as honest and comforting as what I found in Shivchei HaRan #16.
For years, I use to think that my thoughts on this sensitive topic were mine alone. I finally garnered the courage and broached this topic with my friend Aharon. In response to a recent conversation we were having on controlling one's desires he wrote,
"I live in terror of my wife being a niddah. I especially can't bear the isolation. When I think about it, I think I must be the most coarse and shallow excuse for a human that ever existed. Yet, if others feel this way, or experienced difficulties that becomes less depressing."
Aharon is certainly not alone with these honest feelings and it appears that a continuation of these honest discussions on man's "main test in the world" would be beneficial to many in order to provide practical solutions instead of just more questions. In Likutey Moharan #36, Rebbe Nachman of Breslov stressed to us the importance of finding these solutions and wrote,
"It is impossible for any person to grasp and comprehend the tzaddik' teachings unless he has first properly rectified the sign of the holy covenant."